We Don’t Share the Same Interests Q & A What attracted me to my wife in the first place was that she was different. As the saying goes, "opposites attract." After being married though, sometimes it is hard to relate and do things together because our interests aren't the same. What was new and fresh is now boring and dull. What would you tell couples who struggle with knowing what...
Why Doesn’t My Spouse Fulfill Me?... AKA How Can I Change My Spouse? When we had been married a few years, Kim noticed I had been grumpy for a few days. On the farm, we had these irrigation systems that were a pain to work with. I hated running them. At lunch one day, Kim told me that she had noticed how I was down and she wondered if that...
Why Your Attitude is Everything Have you ever noticed that some people just take things in stride better than others? Something goes wrong and there are a myriad of ways to handle the situation - how will you handle it? Friday, I met for lunch with a pastor friend at McAlister’s Deli. I took along the promotional tumbler that we had purchased there several years ago so we can get...
Let’s start with this fundamental understanding: to be married, one needs to be an adult. I can’t imagine anyone wanting to get married to a person who is childish. This may sound like a no brainer, but some fundamentals do get missed. If a child has been under the care of a parent all their life, it is quite possible that they don’t see themselves as an adult. Being an...
We love to answer your questions - it keeps us in touch with what you are going through and what you want to know about. Here is a question from one of our readers: As a guy, I felt defeated sexually at times. I wanted more intimacy and sex. Hinting rarely worked and even when I would do "extra" things around the house to lighten the load it still wasn't...
Love is a Decision If I asked you to define what love is, what would you say? We have heard thousands of songs about love. It is one of the most common themes in music. We have known about the concept of love our whole life. Many of us may say we have been or are in love. So define it. What is it? Think about it and come up...
Christ so loved me that He gave His life for me. According to Ephesians 5:25, husbands are supposed to love our wives as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her. Wow! I’m supposed to love Kim as Christ loved the church. That means I am to give my life for her. This challenge has been before me for years and I, with God's help, keep...
Children: What to Do When Your Parents Won’t Let Go Many of my counseling sessions over the years have been the result of (1) parents not releasing their children when the children get married or (2) children not releasing their parents when the children get married. We addressed the first and second issues in another blog post and I will address the third issue here: what to do when your...
Children: The Importance of Letting Go of Your Parents When You Get Married In my experience, the frequency of young married guys and gals who can’t let go of their parents is pretty equal. It is most often the mother that they are attached to and won’t let go of. Most of the time in our culture, the mother throws herself into the children and the father throws himself into...
Parents... The Importance of Letting Go When Your Child Gets Married Many of my counseling sessions over the years have been the result of: (1) parents not releasing their children when the children get married or (2) children not releasing their parents when the children get married We’ll address the first issue here with the other issues being in another post. When a child gets married, the parents need to...
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