My Spouse is Living the Dream - How Do I Overcome Jealousy? Q & A How can a spouse go beyond feelings of jealousy and being left out when the other is âliving the dreamâ with the ideal job in an environment they love and the other spouse doesnât have a job in their profession and feels stuck in a place away from family and friends? Where does our jealousy...
Help! My Ex and I Donât Get Along!      Iâd like to start by saying something that will probably startle you. You and your ex have a lot of passion⌠and the more disagreeable you are, the more passion you have.  Let me explain. When you initially got together, there was a loving passion or you wouldnât have gotten married. I have people in counseling that tell me, âI never...
Question: What are some ways to intentionally make time for each other when we are both so busy? I work two part-time jobs which have me working at least 6 days a week, and she has a job in which her hours vary week to week, but is also a full-time student. During the week, we often arenât home together until 6:30 at night and with me working at 4:00...
5 Things You Have to Do Well to Have a Great Marriage      When studying in preaching class, the professor asked us what we should do when we hear a great sermon and would like to use it. He said it wouldnât be right to copy it directly without giving credit and that it would be better to use the main points and make the rest of it our own. That...
   Itâs not if a miscommunication will happen, it is when it happens. Let's face it: miscommunications happen to us a lot more than we think they should.      I had thought that the older I got the fewer miscommunications Kim and I would have, but since my hearing isnât 20-20 anymore, it has opened up a whole new window for miscommunication. I will ask Kim, âWhat did you say?â...
  Kim and I have a list of suggested reading for the couples we counsel toward marriage; Gary Chapmanâs book The 5 Love Languages is always on that list. We believe everyone would profit from the straightforward, easy to grasp truths in the book. We also have each couple go online and take the free test at 5lovelanguages.com (Iâll link to the book and the test below). We would encourage you...
Q&A: What Does the Phrase Dying to Self Mean?      Hereâs a question we received from one of our readers: What does the phrase âdying to yourselfâ mean?      There is one major obstacle to my marriage happiness⌠me.      We mirror what we do on this blog and on our YouTube channel. I will have the YouTube link for you at the bottom of this post in the event you want to...
Q&A: Abusive Relationships: Understanding and Recovering From Them Hereâs a question we received: Â Â Â Â Â As someone who has survived an abusive relationship prior to my marriage with the love of my life, my heart goes out to all people out there who are in relationships plagued by abuse. It is so easy to spot an abusive relationship after you have been in one yourself, but it is so difficult to...
  What if your vision of marriage is shortsighted? What if the end goal of the marriage relationship is better than you have imagined? What if there is more to marriage than you anticipated? In this simple illustration, weâll show you how God intends for marriage to be more than you could have imagined.      Sometimes people that come for premarital counseling or meet us for the first time think we...
Unkind Words     Sometimes unkind words just roll off our lips like a tornado that blows through, leaving destruction in its path.  We can walk through the damage and try to pick up the pieces, but the damage is already done. It would be so good if we could prevent this from happening in the first place.  Hereâs a Biblical lesson that hastened me into an attitude of not saying...
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