I once heard a man replying to a question about why his marriage didn’t last. He said, “We had a difference in theology. I thought I was God and she didn’t.” Our priorities set the guidelines for who we are and who we will be both in our marriage and in all of life. First John 2:15-17 lays out the three categories of sin. They are the lust of the...
Are You Life-Giving? What does it mean to be life-giving? Each of us has a need to be loved, cherished and appreciated. Let’s say that when we receive these things we store them up. Let’s call the reservoir these needs are stored in our love tank. Now we should understand that the love tank is always being drained by the things that happen in life. Maybe stress, work, long hours,...
My Spouse is Living the Dream - How Do I Overcome Jealousy? Q & A How can a spouse go beyond feelings of jealousy and being left out when the other is “living the dream” with the ideal job in an environment they love and the other spouse doesn’t have a job in their profession and feels stuck in a place away from family and friends? Where does our jealousy...
Help! My Ex and I Don’t Get Along! I’d like to start by saying something that will probably startle you. You and your ex have a lot of passion… and the more disagreeable you are, the more passion you have. Let me explain. When you initially got together, there was a loving passion or you wouldn’t have gotten married. I have people in counseling that tell me, “I never...
Kim and I have a list of suggested reading for the couples we counsel toward marriage; Gary Chapman’s book The 5 Love Languages is always on that list. We believe everyone would profit from the straightforward, easy to grasp truths in the book. We also have each couple go online and take the free test at 5lovelanguages.com (I’ll link to the book and the test below). We would encourage you...
Q&A: What Does the Phrase Dying to Self Mean? Here’s a question we received from one of our readers: What does the phrase “dying to yourself” mean? There is one major obstacle to my marriage happiness… me. We mirror what we do on this blog and on our YouTube channel. I will have the YouTube link for you at the bottom of this post in the event you want to...
Unkind Words Sometimes unkind words just roll off our lips like a tornado that blows through, leaving destruction in its path. We can walk through the damage and try to pick up the pieces, but the damage is already done. It would be so good if we could prevent this from happening in the first place. Here’s a Biblical lesson that hastened me into an attitude of not saying...
Have you ever felt like you didn’t love your spouse? Did the feelings just leave you? In this time of confusion, there is hope and there is guidance from God. Don’t worry, God is still on the throne… and He’s not nervous. There came a time in our marriage when I fell out of love with Kim. I didn’t try to. There was no one else I was interested in...
If a marriage is having issues, something big needs to change. Trying continually and not achieving any results can be exhausting. Here we’ll teach you how to take care of the big issue so that the little issues won’t keep popping up. Kim and I had been married for about ten years and I was on my way home from a marriage counseling session one evening. I always appreciated the...
Question: What are some effective ways to communicate when you're upset and not ready to talk about it yet (needing cool off time or time to understand your own feelings before talking about them)? Great question. Who hasn’t had this experience, yet it can be difficult to address the issue. We love our spouse, but we feel like we just don’t want to talk about it right now. Here...
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