How We Accepted Christ - What Being a Christian Means to Us    Kim and I got married on September 12, 1981. As of this writing, weâve spent 37 years together. I am amazed at what our marriage has become and had no idea it could be this good. But it didnât start out like it is now. Our marriage is the way it is because we have each...
How to have an Unfair Advantage in Your Marriage      People who donât know Christ are doing marriage blindfolded. You might get along and do OK, but you won't be âone fleshâ unless God is in the center of your relationship. Doing marriage without God is a cheap imitation of what He intended it to be. Itâs like âplaying houseâ instead of the marriage God wants. I have a pastor friend...
Children: What to Do When Your Parents Wonât Let Go      Many of my counseling sessions over the years have been the result of (1) parents not releasing their children when the children get married or (2) children not releasing their parents when the children get married.       We addressed the first and second issues in another blog post and I will address the third issue here: what to do when your...
Children: The Importance of Letting Go of Your Parents When You Get Married      In my experience, the frequency of young married guys and gals who canât let go of their parents is pretty equal. It is most often the mother that they are attached to and wonât let go of. Most of the time in our culture, the mother throws herself into the children and the father throws himself into...
Parents... The Importance of Letting Go When Your Child Gets Married      Many of my counseling sessions over the years have been the result of: (1) parents not releasing their children when the children get married or (2) children not releasing their parents when the children get married       Weâll address the first issue here with the other issues being in another post.      When a child gets married, the parents need to...
My Spouse is Living the Dream - How Do I Overcome Jealousy? Q & A How can a spouse go beyond feelings of jealousy and being left out when the other is âliving the dreamâ with the ideal job in an environment they love and the other spouse doesnât have a job in their profession and feels stuck in a place away from family and friends? Where does our jealousy...
Help! My Ex and I Donât Get Along!      Iâd like to start by saying something that will probably startle you. You and your ex have a lot of passion⌠and the more disagreeable you are, the more passion you have.  Let me explain. When you initially got together, there was a loving passion or you wouldnât have gotten married. I have people in counseling that tell me, âI never...
Question: What are some ways to intentionally make time for each other when we are both so busy? I work two part-time jobs which have me working at least 6 days a week, and she has a job in which her hours vary week to week, but is also a full-time student. During the week, we often arenât home together until 6:30 at night and with me working at 4:00...
5 Things You Have to Do Well to Have a Great Marriage      When studying in preaching class, the professor asked us what we should do when we hear a great sermon and would like to use it. He said it wouldnât be right to copy it directly without giving credit and that it would be better to use the main points and make the rest of it our own. That...
How We Met      Kim and I both grew up on farms. They were 5 miles apart near the town of Ligonier in northern Indiana. Kim is five years younger than me so we didnât meet until after I had graduated from high school. It is common in our community for kids to gather at a house with parents who love to have the kids around, and Kim and I met...
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