I once heard a man replying to a question about why his marriage didn’t last. He said, “We had a difference in theology. I thought I was God and she didn’t.” Our priorities set the guidelines for who we are and who we will be both in our marriage and in all of life. First John 2:15-17 lays out the three categories of sin. They are the lust of the...
Here’s something to ponder. Yes, you are married, but how good of a friend are you with your spouse? We find a groove in our marriage and it becomes who we are, but how is your friendship? Let’s take a look at this topic. Mitch’s Input: We met some people who moved into town and the wife asked Kim if she was in a women’s coffee group. Kim said no. ...
I believe it is fair to say that generation by generation, we are progressing toward more selfish expectations. We begin by thinking our expectations should be met, then move on to thinking they need to be met and finally that our expectations have to be met. We think the world has to turn our way… and if it doesn’t, well that would be a bad terrible thing. In short, we...
Are You Life-Giving? What does it mean to be life-giving? Each of us has a need to be loved, cherished and appreciated. Let’s say that when we receive these things we store them up. Let’s call the reservoir these needs are stored in our love tank. Now we should understand that the love tank is always being drained by the things that happen in life. Maybe stress, work, long hours,...
We Don’t Share the Same Interests Q & A What attracted me to my wife in the first place was that she was different. As the saying goes, "opposites attract." After being married though, sometimes it is hard to relate and do things together because our interests aren't the same. What was new and fresh is now boring and dull. What would you tell couples who struggle with knowing what...
Why Doesn’t My Spouse Fulfill Me?... AKA How Can I Change My Spouse? When we had been married a few years, Kim noticed I had been grumpy for a few days. On the farm, we had these irrigation systems that were a pain to work with. I hated running them. At lunch one day, Kim told me that she had noticed how I was down and she wondered if that...
Why Your Attitude is Everything Have you ever noticed that some people just take things in stride better than others? Something goes wrong and there are a myriad of ways to handle the situation - how will you handle it? Friday, I met for lunch with a pastor friend at McAlister’s Deli. I took along the promotional tumbler that we had purchased there several years ago so we can get...
Let’s start with this fundamental understanding: to be married, one needs to be an adult. I can’t imagine anyone wanting to get married to a person who is childish. This may sound like a no brainer, but some fundamentals do get missed. If a child has been under the care of a parent all their life, it is quite possible that they don’t see themselves as an adult. Being an...
How we start something tends to dictate how things turn out. Dating and marriage are no different. I knew a youth pastor whose fiancée became pregnant and the church had to make a decision as to what - if any - action they would take. I was a young Christian then and reasoned that after they were married, sex would no longer be a sin, so it wasn’t probably...
We love to answer your questions - it keeps us in touch with what you are going through and what you want to know about. Here is a question from one of our readers: As a guy, I felt defeated sexually at times. I wanted more intimacy and sex. Hinting rarely worked and even when I would do "extra" things around the house to lighten the load it still wasn't...
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