We love to answer your questions - it keeps us in touch with what you are going through and what you want to know about. Here is a question from one of our readers: As a guy, I felt defeated sexually at times. I wanted more intimacy and sex. Hinting rarely worked and even when I would do "extra" things around the house to lighten the load it still wasn't...
Help! My Ex and I Don’t Get Along! I’d like to start by saying something that will probably startle you. You and your ex have a lot of passion… and the more disagreeable you are, the more passion you have. Let me explain. When you initially got together, there was a loving passion or you wouldn’t have gotten married. I have people in counseling that tell me, “I never...
It’s not if a miscommunication will happen, it is when it happens. Let's face it: miscommunications happen to us a lot more than we think they should. I had thought that the older I got the fewer miscommunications Kim and I would have, but since my hearing isn’t 20-20 anymore, it has opened up a whole new window for miscommunication. I will ask Kim, “What did you say?”...
Kim and I have a list of suggested reading for the couples we counsel toward marriage; Gary Chapman’s book The 5 Love Languages is always on that list. We believe everyone would profit from the straightforward, easy to grasp truths in the book. We also have each couple go online and take the free test at 5lovelanguages.com (I’ll link to the book and the test below). We would encourage you...
Q&A: What Does the Phrase Dying to Self Mean? Here’s a question we received from one of our readers: What does the phrase “dying to yourself” mean? There is one major obstacle to my marriage happiness… me. We mirror what we do on this blog and on our YouTube channel. I will have the YouTube link for you at the bottom of this post in the event you want to...
Q&A: Abusive Relationships: Understanding and Recovering From Them Here’s a question we received: As someone who has survived an abusive relationship prior to my marriage with the love of my life, my heart goes out to all people out there who are in relationships plagued by abuse. It is so easy to spot an abusive relationship after you have been in one yourself, but it is so difficult to...
What if your vision of marriage is shortsighted? What if the end goal of the marriage relationship is better than you have imagined? What if there is more to marriage than you anticipated? In this simple illustration, we’ll show you how God intends for marriage to be more than you could have imagined. Sometimes people that come for premarital counseling or meet us for the first time think we...
You aren’t as accurate at remembering as you think you are. In fact, many of the things you remember aren’t necessarily true. In some ways, we are like the old sailor that told the tale so many times that he started believing it himself. Let’s learn how to manage our expectations so that we have the best possible mindset. Have you ever been somewhere with your spouse and...
What’s your Christian walk like… really? Have you ever wondered what your witness looks like to God? In this story-lesson let’s see what we look like. Hopefully, this story will stay with you as it has me and be a constant reminder of what you need to be striving for in your relationships with God, your spouse and others. In college, we had a class called The Learning Process. Our...
Do you think it’s hard to know if you’re in God’s will? When we stop and think about it, God doesn't ask us to give up anything that won’t kill us… either spiritually, mentally or physically. What if there was an easy test to see if we are submitting to God or not? What if it were as simple as 1,2 3? If we hear a Biblical truth and run...
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