We Don’t Share the Same Interests Q & A What attracted me to my wife in the first place was that she was different. As the saying goes, "opposites attract." After being married though, sometimes it is hard to relate and do things together because our interests aren't the same. What was new and fresh is now boring and dull. What would you tell couples who struggle with knowing what...
Why Doesn’t My Spouse Fulfill Me?... AKA How Can I Change My Spouse? When we had been married a few years, Kim noticed I had been grumpy for a few days. On the farm, we had these irrigation systems that were a pain to work with. I hated running them. At lunch one day, Kim told me that she had noticed how I was down and she wondered if that...
Why Your Attitude is Everything Have you ever noticed that some people just take things in stride better than others? Something goes wrong and there are a myriad of ways to handle the situation - how will you handle it? Friday, I met for lunch with a pastor friend at McAlister’s Deli. I took along the promotional tumbler that we had purchased there several years ago so we can get...
Let’s start with this fundamental understanding: to be married, one needs to be an adult. I can’t imagine anyone wanting to get married to a person who is childish. This may sound like a no brainer, but some fundamentals do get missed. If a child has been under the care of a parent all their life, it is quite possible that they don’t see themselves as an adult. Being an...
How we start something tends to dictate how things turn out. Dating and marriage are no different. I knew a youth pastor whose fiancée became pregnant and the church had to make a decision as to what - if any - action they would take. I was a young Christian then and reasoned that after they were married, sex would no longer be a sin, so it wasn’t probably...
We love to answer your questions - it keeps us in touch with what you are going through and what you want to know about. Here is a question from one of our readers: As a guy, I felt defeated sexually at times. I wanted more intimacy and sex. Hinting rarely worked and even when I would do "extra" things around the house to lighten the load it still wasn't...
Love is a Decision If I asked you to define what love is, what would you say? We have heard thousands of songs about love. It is one of the most common themes in music. We have known about the concept of love our whole life. Many of us may say we have been or are in love. So define it. What is it? Think about it and come up...
Christ so loved me that He gave His life for me. According to Ephesians 5:25, husbands are supposed to love our wives as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her. Wow! I’m supposed to love Kim as Christ loved the church. That means I am to give my life for her. This challenge has been before me for years and I, with God's help, keep...
How We Accepted Christ - What Being a Christian Means to Us Kim and I got married on September 12, 1981. As of this writing, we’ve spent 37 years together. I am amazed at what our marriage has become and had no idea it could be this good. But it didn’t start out like it is now. Our marriage is the way it is because we have each...
How to have an Unfair Advantage in Your Marriage People who don’t know Christ are doing marriage blindfolded. You might get along and do OK, but you won't be “one flesh” unless God is in the center of your relationship. Doing marriage without God is a cheap imitation of what He intended it to be. It’s like “playing house” instead of the marriage God wants. I have a pastor friend...
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